WOW! Our culture! Our Human-ness… it is so rigid and unbecoming. This pressure to perform kills the soul, steals joy, and destroys relationships…. IF we let it.
This idea that we must perform for others, creates a cage and intense bondage.
My children are experiencing this right now. I am too. We are choosing a different way to do school this year. And with that comes trouble on every side.
All the things that choke relationships and uniqueness in our lives. All these things that we say we fight for as homeschoolers and Christians. Yet, I find these are too often the most critical and fault finding groups, picking at each other and shaming one another, over benign family choices.
This is not right my friends. Mercy over Judgement is what wins. God has always been merciful and picks mercy over judgement.
Psalm 103:8 (NKJV) “The Lord is merciful and gracious, Slow to anger, and abounding in mercy.”
James 2:13 (NKJV) “For judgment is without mercy to the one who has shown no mercy. Mercy triumphs over judgment.”
Do we not yet realize that what is best for one family, is truly not always best for another? Unless it goes against the written word, it is not sin.
Yes, correction may come, or even judgement, but let it not be at the hand of the one calling themselves a Christian. Let it be God’s. He is the only one who can judge rightly. And He is the one who knows the hearts of those involved.
The Lord calls us to love, not condemn or judge. Even Jesus Himself said that He did not come into the world to condemn the world…. John 3:17 Read The Book, you’ll see what I am talking about.
Realize, performing for others means that we are believing that others have the right to judge us. God is our judge! And we have His Holy Spirit to show us the way, if we are His.
What about standards? They can be good, but not all of the come from the Father. We MUST know what He is calling us to and measure up to His standards and not another’s.
Friends, support each other. Hold each other up. Don’t tear each other down. Stop creating an environment that demands performance for friendship, relationship and Christian love and growth. That is not the Father’s ways, neither should it be ours.